A "Dee Dah Day"
I love the story that author, John Ortberg, writes in his book The Life You’ve Always Wanted. He writes, “Sometime ago I was giving a bath to our three children. I had a custom of bathing them together, more to save time than anything else. I knew that eventually I would have to stop the group bathing, but for the time being it seemed efficient.
Johnny was still in the tub, Laura was out and safely in her pajamas, and I was trying to get Mallory dried off. Mallory was out of the water, but was doing what has come to be known in our family as the Dee Dah Day dance. This consists of her running around and around in circles, singing over and over again ‘Dee dah day, dee dah day.’ It is a relatively simple dance expressing great joy. When she is too happy to hold it in any longer, when words are inadequate to give voice to her euphoria, she has to dance to release her joy. So she does the Dee Dah Day.
On this particular occasion, I was irritated. ‘Mallory, hurry!’ I prodded. So she did—she began running in circles faster and faster and chanting ‘dee dah day’ more rapidly. ‘No, Mallory, that’s not what I mean! Stop with the dee dah day stuff, and get over here so I can dry you off. Hurry!’
Then she asked a profound question: ‘Why?’
I had no answer. I had nowhere to go, nothing to do, no meetings to attend, no sermons to write. I was just so used to hurrying, so preoccupied with my own little agenda, so trapped in this rut of moving from one task to another, that here was life, here was joy, here was an invitation to the dance right in front of me—and I was missing it.”
I love that story because I have the same tendency to get so busy that I “miss the invitation to the dance.” I misplace my priorities thinking that the things in life that really matter are the things that I accomplish—the things I can “check off” my to do list. And in the process, I miss the “Dee Dah Day” moments.
Not long ago, Lee Ann Womack had the hit single, “I Hope You Dance.” In the chorus of the song she simply makes the statement, “And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance . . . I hope you dance.” And by the way, God encourages the same thing: “This is the day the Lord has made, let us rejoice and be glad in it!” (Psalm 118:24)
Do the “Dee Dah Day!”
Johnny was still in the tub, Laura was out and safely in her pajamas, and I was trying to get Mallory dried off. Mallory was out of the water, but was doing what has come to be known in our family as the Dee Dah Day dance. This consists of her running around and around in circles, singing over and over again ‘Dee dah day, dee dah day.’ It is a relatively simple dance expressing great joy. When she is too happy to hold it in any longer, when words are inadequate to give voice to her euphoria, she has to dance to release her joy. So she does the Dee Dah Day.
On this particular occasion, I was irritated. ‘Mallory, hurry!’ I prodded. So she did—she began running in circles faster and faster and chanting ‘dee dah day’ more rapidly. ‘No, Mallory, that’s not what I mean! Stop with the dee dah day stuff, and get over here so I can dry you off. Hurry!’
Then she asked a profound question: ‘Why?’
I had no answer. I had nowhere to go, nothing to do, no meetings to attend, no sermons to write. I was just so used to hurrying, so preoccupied with my own little agenda, so trapped in this rut of moving from one task to another, that here was life, here was joy, here was an invitation to the dance right in front of me—and I was missing it.”
I love that story because I have the same tendency to get so busy that I “miss the invitation to the dance.” I misplace my priorities thinking that the things in life that really matter are the things that I accomplish—the things I can “check off” my to do list. And in the process, I miss the “Dee Dah Day” moments.
Not long ago, Lee Ann Womack had the hit single, “I Hope You Dance.” In the chorus of the song she simply makes the statement, “And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance . . . I hope you dance.” And by the way, God encourages the same thing: “This is the day the Lord has made, let us rejoice and be glad in it!” (Psalm 118:24)
Do the “Dee Dah Day!”
posted by Greg Nettle at 1:31 PM
4 Comments:
It is easy to just get in the habit of being in a hurry. I see it in myself all the time. I think in New York City you just come to believe that you're supposed to be in a hurry. Even if I have nowhere that I need to be at a certain time, I rush to and fro.
I also think that sometimes it is a mechanism for avoiding seeing those in need. If I look like I'm in a hurry, that homeless person will know not to approach me and I won't have to think about how to deal with that person. Of course, I don't think it is just a New Yorker thing.
I was thinking about the summer I spent in a village in Crimea, a village without television or running water. There was truly no place to rush to. It was one the most enjoyable summer of my life, just sitting in the evening and talking with others and drinking tea.
I think the world has just become so hurried that we don't even know why. And we miss the dance.
In Oct 2005 the hurricane in South Fla took out all our power for weeks. It was a sobering experience. After the first 2 days, all the debris clearing, and necessities like food and water were dealt with...now what. It was frightening to learn in yourself, and in most families around you that no one knew what to do with their time. No TV, no internet, no cell phones. It took me about 4 days to deal with guilt for not being at work! There was no work to go to for any of us, and we still felt guilty! Amazing how conditioned we are to stay busy, for fear of being thought lazy. Eventually, I devoured several books I'd been meaning to read. It was glorious.
The sadest part was realizing that friends and family alike weren't able to just have a conversation. Our society is so entertainment driven, that we've lost those skills. So, instead of using this God-given "time-out" from our busy lives to reconnect with each other, we just endured it. Suffered through it.
I suggest that all families start taking a day each week as a "no technology day". See what happens when there are no distractions or ways to avoid your loved ones.
amen to having fun and being like a child....we all need some way to unwind from the stresses of the world...
oh yeah i think you should demonstrate it at rivertree...that would be interesting!! lol
I Love that book and that story!
Yours is just as great! Thanks for sharing.
IHL,
Richie
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